Dear H
Today I arrived in the UK from a long flight and a hard few days working abroad and went to your School. I did not come on your 18th birthday as that is what was probably expected. I did not give any notice to the School in case they inform your mum or tell me it is not possible. As it was I go to see both Janet the Deputy Head and Mrs M
My purpose for coming was two fold. Firstly to ascertain whether it was possible to see you now you are an adult and secondly to ensure your birthday presents got to you safely. I was shown yet another copy of ‘your’ solicitors letter to me and asked whether they really thought it had been issued by you or was in fact L's doing.
I asked if they had shown you the letter or discussed it with you but they had not. So we established that they had no idea if it was your wishes or not. I understood I was putting the school in a difficult position. and they also felt that 'given your and their relationship with Mum I was putting you both in a difficult and stressful position'. I explained how I knew you had not had my presents and cards in the past and it was a matter of court record that you had the incorrect belief that I had forgotten your birthdays or Christmas in the past as a result of cards and presents being withheld. What was interesting was how much they both feared a backlash from L of me turning up and of the impact on you. Mrs M was very professional but it was obvious that not all is well at home and that you are in a very difficult place at the moment. They were genuinely concerned for you. I so hope they are wrong and you are in fact ok.
We agreed given your various practicals and exams at the moment it would be wrong to add any more pressure by asking you if you wanted to meet me in the presence of the Headmistress.
Likewise I respected her advice that leaving your presents would cause trouble for both you and the school and that I should hold on to them until your exams had finished. We agreed that none of us would mention my visit until June and then Mrs M would inform you of my visit and discussion and agreed to pass you the presents at that point. She gave me her word on this and I believed her.
She has not always been true to her word and has gone direct to L in the past. But I must trust her judgement and I believe she has your best interests at heart. My only concern dearest H is that you have no knowledge of this letter and you again feel I have not acknowledged your birthday or don’t care or think about you. I know you know deep down that is not the case. I so love you and think about you and miss you everyday xxx
G,
POSTSCRIPT- email from Police issuing harassment warning.
Thank you for speaking with me this evening.
To confirm the discussion that we had:
1. Your ex-wife and daughter have reported to Police that they have received unwanted communication from you over the last few months, and that this communication occurred after they had sent correspondence to you requesting no further contact.
2. They stated that this communication had caused them some harassment and distress. As I confirmed they had not detailed why they were distressed, but that they are not required to in order to make the report.
3. Having reviewed the complaint and having consulted with them as to the available options afforded by the Harassment Act 1997, it was agreed that a Harassment Warning would be made to you directing you to stop any further contact, either by electronic message, postal correspondence, or visit to their place of work/school/abode. The sanction upon ignoring such a warning is that it allows Police to arrest you for an offence of harassment (s.2). Please treat this e mail as a document clarifying your receipt of this harassment warning which I said to you on the telephone.
4. I understand that you have clarified some recent communication in regards to a birthday present for H, and that you have attended her school where you met with her Head teacher – this will not be treated as new information unless there is renewed activity after this date/time. Additionally I note that you say that you anticipate false allegations of contact will be made by L now that she knows this warning has been given.
5. Additionally I have recorded that you state you intend to have no further contact with L, and that any future communication with H should be via a solicitor, so as not to jeopardise your position in relation to this harassment warning.
6. I have also noted that you believe your e-mail has been hacked and suspect that L may be involved in this, however in the first instance I have advised you notify your service provider who are better placed to deal with this than the Police.
7. I have now notified both H and L that I have spoken with you and have conveyed the harassment warning to you, and that you were disappointed that it had been given, but intended to abide by it.
8. Lastly, you expressed a wish not to have an officer attend in person to deliver this harassment warning, and would be satisfied with this e-mail from an identified Police account as a verifiable source.
Should there be a need to contact me again in relation to this matter, please use this e-mail or contact as below.
Yours sincerely,
Sgt ****************
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