Dear L,
I had thought that we were starting to make progress. Clearly Saturday saw things take a turn for the worse. I was shocked and surprised to see how much you have removed from the property, but worse you appeared to have removed personal items of mine including my medal collection.
Both NE and I were a little surprised to see the arrival of two police cars for no apparent reason, whilst we were moving me possessions by prior agreement. It is not clear to me why you felt the need to call the police, what you told them or why they were there.
After your insistence that I could only use one of two people to help me move, the unrealistic timescale you set to move and then get to Maidstone to see H, I was sad that you arrived late yourself and after only 30 minutes left with H thus denying me access and visitation with my daughter yet again.
You cannot imagine how hurtful your actions are and how it feels to be kept away from your own daughter. I know how much H means to you and I will not challenge your application for residency. It is something I have already signed up to in the parenting plan we submitted to the court as was access. To deny me the few hours that I was to have with her was beyond any cruelty to both of us. I cannot believe that it was a deliberate decision. You are not that heartless. Do you realise I have seen H for less than 6 hours since the 23rd of March as a result of your actions to date.
Today, I have requested that (Solicitor) apply for a court order to give me interim access. I have also requested that he apply for on a court hearing with regard to a disputed financial settlement. Since you have rejected my written settlement offer, suggestions to meet an independent mediator or to sit down with our own solicitors, I am left with no alternative. I would therefore suggest that you seek the advice of your solicitor. Perhaps the 3 months before the likely first hearing is probably a good thing to give us headspace and time to come to terms with what has happened between us.
When you did not return on Saturday afternoon, you left me little option than to enter the family home to collect the remainder of my belongings. I did this only after confirming with a solicitor I had the legal right to do so. I so wish it had not been necessary but it was clear that to not have done so would have potentially resulted in the loss of more items being removed and or sold by you.
Clearly you have found a source of income outside of your maintenance to fund the new purchases obvious in the house, as you have complained I am not paying you enough to survive. I can only assume that is through the sale of joint assets or the two compensation claims you currently have running or the £30,000 you removed from the joint account without warning or consent; that are funding your purchases and current holiday. Two trips to Jersey and one to France since March, a new microwave, dyson and two new bookcases would suggest you are not as hard done to as you make out.
I have removed items from the list I included in my last letter after entering the property on Saturday afternoon when you did not return to the house. (See attached.) I found many of my personal items hidden in the loft but others like the Domingo do not appear to be in the property. Please confirm what items you have sold / removed, where they are located and that they are adequately insured by return.
I did secure the property on the Yale lock before leaving and have subsequently paid NEl £60 cash for the repairs carried out on Sunday by his carpenter. I will of course pay for the replacement of the front door and its fitting should you provide me with reasonable quotes from the carpenter who fitted the internal doors.
I note that you were in on Sunday – a day I could not see H because you were not here apparently. This was clearly untrue and further reinforces the fact that you have no intention of letting me see H and continue to flout the parenting plan we signed up to with the divorce application.
I hope you will contact me to arrange for me to see H this weekend on your return from Jersey I hope also that I can see her next weekend for the final supervised visit on Saturday pm at Nicks. After your behaviour last weekend and the fallout both personally and professionally from it I would suggest that a different chaperone might be more suitable. How about the (Names removed) Please confirm.
I will be attending Parents evening on the 8th June If you do not wish for us to meet Mrs G et al together please advise me of the means of sorting out a different agenda for me to meet separately. My new address for your information is: (Removed)
Please give my love to H. If you would allow her to write or ring me I would be eternally grateful. I hope you both had a good break and you were looked after well by UG and L
Respectfully yours,
Specific Contents I have removed from Bullion Oast
Ø Cheap double bed and mattress
Ø Family pictures
Ø Harriet Baby of the year
Ø RM helmet plate framed
Ø Set of photos of pebbles
Ø Transat chart
Ø Girl on kerb picture
Ø Bedside cabinet
Ø Nelson bust and plaque
Ø MP dining chairs
Ø Hexagonal brass cornered box
Ø Compass collection, fishing reel
Ø Tankards
Ø Camphor wood chest and contents
Ø Chess set
Ø My golf clubs / punch bag / weights / fishing tackle / racing bike etc.
Ø Tools / drills and painting stuff.
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