23 March 2006
L
Thank you for your letter and news of H. It was a big step and I appreciate it. I am very sad to hear H’s present was broken. Was the photograph intact? Can it be put in another frame?. If so let me know the cost and I will send a cheque.
Thank you for the certificates. I am proud of H and would give anything for a tape of her singing and some photographs. I cannot tell you just how painful not seeing or hearing her is. But you know that oh so well.
I assume that I will not see H over Easter and that you will go abroad. Please have the decency to inform me if you are taking H away. I doubt you will tell me where just make sure UG knows Can you sleep at night? I hope so. I can't which is fine if the commonwealth games are on I suppose.
Do you have any plans to visit the UK at Easter? If so is there any possibility of me seeing H. Yes I am begging. I have given up the case for access as you requested. You always said you thought H should have a relationship with her father yet I see no evidence other than to the contrary. You now have your second passport having reported yours 'stolen" so I suppose there is nothing stopping you taking H away and emigrating even if I do try and stop you through the Court. How sad it has all ended like this. Does anyone you know think you are right to do what you are doing?
Having had no contact with (your solicitor) despite numerous attempts, I have now engaged a new solicitor and barrister. You will be informed of their details in due course.
I find it incredible that you have not responded to my offer and want to drag this out further. We are each looking at £20-25k to go to trial and already you have been offered everything you wanted and more than you will get in court. Based on my last Calderbank offer you get almost everything so why are we still fighting? Im sorry L, I cannot fathom what has become of us. Mutually assured destruction? Isn't it time to end the cold war? Nor can I understand your comments about the Halifax unless it is to try and appear completely reasonable to the court. Too late. You and I both know and I have documentary evidence that you made no attempt to agree to the closure of the account. Likewise everyday you refuse to rent out or sell the house is money deliberately being lost. It is interesting and you should discuss conduct as defined by the law with your solicitor. It doesn’t seem to matter what games, stunts or activities you or I have played over the last year. The only thing in relation to conduct the courts are interested in is whether we have deliberately lied, covered up or failed to declare assets or tried to put them beyond reach or deliberately wasted money out of spite. I think L on this and this alone I have the upper hand and can prove you have consistently lied to the Court. Likewise by your actions you have tried your hardest to destroy my ability to earn and my mental health that will not sit well with any judge.
In light of your not accepting my last offer it is clear that we will end up fighting over every last penny and there is no case for keeping the house and it will have to be sold. As such I will be applying to the court to wave the injunction stopping me returning to our old home to move back in to do the property up for sale and ensure its security until it is sold and the proceeds split. I can avoid more shared costs if you and your solicitor are willing to wave this need by confirming in writing you are happy for the lifting of the order and providing a key. Please confirm by 1 April 2006.
I feel there has been enough acrimony and bitterness for a lifetime. You have made a new start in Jersey and found a good job and I respect that. We must think of H and what is in her best interests. She needs us both and she also needs security. Her interests are not served by dragging this out ad infinitum;
Spending £50k on solicitors and in the mean time ending up in the looney bin or worse. It is madness. Surely you can see that. What if you lose and have to pay the costs how are you going to do that? What will be left? Is that what you want? The only people benefiting from this are the lawyers.
Please stop this insanity I beg you. I don’t know what you want or what it is you think will be the outcome of all this. We are two intelligent human beings who care too much for our daughter surely to let this continue.
The law as it stands will provide you with between 60 and 65% of the capital as you have residence of H. As you are earning a good salary there is unlikely to be a maintenance requirement for you and there are guidelines for H's maintenance which I have already met. Can you not see that the offer you have exceeds anything you will get from the court and in order to ensure my daughters security I have ceded more capital in order we reach a full and final settlement. Work out the cost of solicitors, barrister etc versus the potential down or up side of the offer versus what the court might decide and it makes no sense whatsoever to drag this out. Unless you still have this notion that there is some hidden fortune!
Frankly L you have proved to be the financial wizard with your money laundering over the years and the ability to ringfence anything you earned while I paid for everything. If you want to gamble with our daughters future so be it. I strongly suggest we don’t. Talk to me for gods sake.
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